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Detective interrogating and hoping to charge Sharon Stone with murder:
"This is a non-smoking building miss".
Sharon Stone, (inhaling) : "what're you going to charge me with,
smoking?"
from Basic Instinct, 1992.
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"WHAT IS THE SMOKING FETISH?"
(I am not going to explain, someone
else has done it VERY well, and here it is)
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"You mean you love to watch women smoke, too?
I can't believe it! I thought I was the only one!"
No one knows how many men (or for that matter, women) are keeping
this "secret" to themselves. But
whenever a person who is captivated by the sight of a sexy smoker
finally discovers a kindred spirit, the
reaction is always the same: "I thought I was the only one!"
It's not hard to come to the conclusion that so-called sexual fetishes
are much more common than "nice
people" have publicly admitted. For decades, people debated the
answer to an advertising slogan that
became a catch phrase: "is it true blondes have more fun?" Society's
focus on breasts, build, legs, and rear
ends is much more than idle conversation. The never-ending mating
ritual usually focuses not on
personality, but on physical traits or often, other objects such
as clothing, shoes, tattoos or body piercings.
Everyone's heard the term "foot fetish," even though most people
don't honestly understand what it
means. So is it really that surprising that for years, men and women
have also focused on smoking as an
object of sexual attraction?
An article in the magazine "Platinum" points out that "if you want
to draw a bead on the American
psyche, look no further than American cinema - the who, what, where
and why of hour we live our lives
is all right there. If it happens on the street, it happens on the
screen, particularly when it comes to
smoking." The article goes on to observe: "Bogart, Davis, Dietrich,
Dean. In countless scenes and studio
publicity photos, smoke forever curls from the lips of our favorite
stars. Whatever the image desired by
the studio, the history of film is a history of smoking."
If you think about it (and if you're reading this article, chances
are that you've thought about it many
times), most likely you can remember dozens of movie scenes (and
television scenes, before producers,
networks and stations were forced to discover government-enforced
political correctness) in which
smoking plays a prominent role. In fact, it's not hard to conclude
that many actors, actresses, writers and
directors have translated their own fascination with smoking into
a permanent presence in their work.
There are many opinions and theories as to why many men (AND women!)
find smoking attractive, sexy
and alluring. A few of the most common that we hear (sometimes by
themselves, sometimes in
combination);
- women who smoke are self-confident, sophisticated
or socially adept; they handle their smoking with
competence and style.
- women who smoke are "naughty"; they deliberately
do something that is sometimes (today, more than
ever!) viewed as socially unacceptable, unfeminine
or just plain "wrong." (Many are attracted to
innocent-looking women who 'don't look like
they'd be a smoker'; that seems to be quite common.)
- women who smoke are more relaxed, carefree,
fun-loving and not as uptight; many guys see smoking as
a reflection of the attitude: "I do what I
like."
- women who smoke are often more confident
of their sexuality; they may even use their smoking as a
"tool" or "prop" to attract attention.
- finally, many can't even explain the reason
for their attraction to women who smoke, any more than
other people can explain why they're attracted
to women with long hair or nice legs. Plain and simple, it
just turns them on.
There are also some "deeper" aspects of the fetish or attraction
that we hear at times; some with the fetish
are attracted to dominant women who smoke, with the smoking one
symbol of their dominance (it seems
that those who feel this way are less likely to smoke themselves,
increasing the symbolism of the woman
in charge who's "allowed" to smoke). Less common aspects that we
also hear involve a Freudian oral
fixation (it's really not a -conscious- perception among most of
those we've spoken with), or an attraction
to women who are heavy smokers dependent on their habit (we're not
sure quite what the psychological
basis is for that, but there probably is one).
As for what it is that fetishists are attracted to---again, it varies
depending on the person. Probably the
three most common answers we hear are:
- the exhale---it's quite sensuous and alluring, particularly when
women are "accomplished" or "talented"
smokers. (You'll often hear people who feel this way express a preference
for women who french inhale,
exhale through their nostrils, blow smoke rings, and so on.)
- the manner---how they handle their cigarette and their inhaling
and exhaling.
- what's being smoked---the smoking fetish is often quite specific,
with many guys often attracted
primarily to (depending on their fetish) women who smoke long cigarettes,
women who smoke cigarettes
with white filters or brown filters, women who smoke strong cigarettes,
and so on. There are also quite a
few who are attracted to women who smoke cigars, or women who use
cigarette holders.
And those who claim that the tobacco industry perpetuates the "myth"
that smoking is attractive or sexy
totally ignore the social history. Obviously, dating back to the
early days of women taking up smoking in
America, there was a sexual mystique surrounding women who smoke
(everything from a recent book of
postcards from the era 1890-1930, to the black and white films of
the 30s and 40s) makes it clear that
there has always been a "sexual component" to smoking. The Virginia
Slims ads of the 60's, to use one
example, didn't create that perception, they reflected it.
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A recent coffee-table book about Marlene Dietrich (who most people
probably can't picture WITHOUT a
cigarette) is also worth noting. It was the work of noted photographer
Alexander Lieberman, whose text
accompanies his pictures. There's one well-done section of photos
of Marlene (in later life) smoking for
the camera; the text speaks volumes. "She would willingly play the
photographer's game, lending herself
easily to new suggestions that intrigued her and falling into the
spirit of experimentation. But she seemed
to know in advance what the results would be. I did not ask her
to blow smoke. With her visual
imagination and inventiveness, she knew, seeing the black background,
what would be her most effective
contribution to the sitting. The cigarette was for many years a
magical prop for gesture. The fashion
models, the photographers, liked the pretext of smoking as a stylization
of modernism. The woman
smoking with casual indifference appeared more liberated, more secure
and sure of herself. For Marlene,
in her man's suit or tails, it enriched still more her ambiguous,
suggestive stance. She loved to light the
cigarettes of her woman friends. Perhaps she dared these knowing,
seductive hints at male-female
interplay out of spite that such actions were acceptable only for
men. Smoking, her need and passion, a
sign of her toughness and liberation, also became an opportunity
for her to play. The patterns of smoke
blowing into the air created a surprising poetic illusion."
It should, then, not come as any surprise that many people have fixated
on smoking as an object of sexual
desire or arousal. This was spelled out recently, in of all places,
an article in the Ladies' Home Journal
entitled "Sexual Obsessions." The author observes: "Fetishism, the
dependence on an object or body part
for arousal...is believed to be one of the most common yet least
often discussed sexual compulsions.
Since little research has been done, it's difficult to say how widespread
the condition is. Yet it may be
more prevalent than even the experts suggest." This article does
not single out smoking as an example of
fetishism. However, studies in psychological and psychiatric journals
have found smoking to be a
common focus of this sort of sexual behavior. Further, most studies
conclude that there is little or nothing
that can be done to "cure" any sort of fetish, and a wide variety
of experts has concluded that as long as
the fetish is one without a victim, there's no reason to try to
change it.
So, what does this say to people who are attracted to smokers or
have a smoking fetish? Basically: relax,
accept it as just one part of your identity, and enjoy it!
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